Connelly, Phyllis Carol

Phyllis Carol Connelly, age 78, passed away peacefully November 22, 2020 after a long battle with Alzheimer’s and vascular dementia.

Born October 1, 1942, Carol was the daughter of the late Henrietta Connell (Bupp) and Herbert Harkins and proudly grew up in The Flats neighborhood of Wilmington on Bayard Ave. She left this world in a room overlooking that same street, just a few blocks from the house she lived in as a child.

She cultivated long term relationships, attending Wilmington High School, where she formed a friendship with Vera McLoughlin Chmielewski that lasted through the rest of her life. While working as a mail girl at DuPont in the early 60s, she met then married Walton Theodore (Ted) Connelly. They celebrated their 58th wedding anniversary last June.

She was the beloved mother of Catherine Duffus (Jim), Lauren McCloskey (Sean) and Kristen Evans (Patrick). Dear sister of Anna Wayland, Greg and Willis Day, she is predeceased by her brothers James Russell Jr and Kenneth Day. Close with her cousins, she would work on puzzles with Bonnie whenever she visited. She was known as Aunt Carol to over 20 nieces and nephews, many of whom saw her as a second Mom. She looked after all of us.

She loved to bake, it was not a family function without her famous cream puffs, and would walk for hours around her neighborhood of 55 years, Kiamensi Gardens. A wizard with a pair of knitting needles, many of us benefitted from her work. An animal lover, she allowed her children to bring home all types of pets, but cats were her favorite. Her cats (Mickey Kitty, Bo and Elliott) all lived into their late teens.

Most of all, she loved her grandchildren. She was Mimi to Ryan, Dan (Stephanie), Colin, Paige, Ambrose and Dashel. They meant the world to her.

A Celebration of Carol’s Life will be held after the pandemic when it is safe to hold the big parties she’s always loved.

Our family would like to thank the staff of The Lorelton and Hospice care nurses Jayne and Helen for their excellent care this past year.

In lieu of flowers, please consider a donation to the Alzheimer’s Association (

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